The below letter was posted as a response to my article I raised and addict – what could I have done differently? – the author, Stephen Gambale, has graciously allowed me to share his beautiful words. Thank you Stephen. ~ Trish
I want you to rest assured that you were the best parent a son could ever ask for. I’m sure a million questions swirl around in that beautiful mind of yours on a daily basis. What could’ve been done differently? What you should’ve done? Would’ve done? Could’ve done? The answer is quite simple – you did your best. And as your son, I am forever grateful for that every single day I put my two feet on the ground.
Did you not teach me right from wrong? Did you not teach me the lessons I needed to be taught when you caught me from “falling”? Did you not console me when I needed consoling? Did you not teach me selflessness through your actions? It is a maternal instinct to love and protect your child. That is your best conscious decision making, and it is made through LOVE. What I did was made a conscious decision to ignore everything you taught me through action and word, use my ego to lie to myself that I know best and put my comfort at the forefront, disregarding the sacrifices you made for me growing up. Why? Because I’m selfish.
There is nothing you could have done differently that could have gotten me out of my OWN way.
If anything, your LOVE and “catching my fall” and selfless actions day in and day out, saved my life. How you ask? Well it’s those very actions you’ve taken and things that you have done that taught me what a good hearted , loving, decent and caring man should do for those around him as well as those he loves. It is you that taught me how to put others before myself and treat others how I’d want to be treated. Unfortunately I had to beat the selfishness out of me by my poor decisions. But don’t think for a second it wasn’t your love that I held in my heart that gave me the hope I needed to turn my life around and see the light. The heart you possess is everything that I believe God embodies. It is through the love that GOD placed in your heart that saved my life. So let me thank you from the bottom of my heart for not doing anything differently. It might have just killed me.
With much love and respect,
About Stephen Gambale
I am a 32 year old who grew up in Medford. MA
I played baseball throughout my life and played baseball under a division 1 scholarship at the University of Maine.
I am now a successful realtor in the Back Bay of Boston, live on my own and can go where any free man or woman can go.
I also love to write freestyle, off the top of my head, so anything you read of mine is coming into my mind “real time”
I was offered a true and genuine path to freedom from addiction and I took it.
I’d like to offer my knowledge and time to those looking for the same freedom as well as insight to families.